Being happy doesnt mean that everything is perfect.

It means that you have decided to look beyond the imperfections...

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Close to home...

In the last week or so I have seen a video doing the rounds on facebook. I finally got around to watching it, and it touched me. It hit so close to home. It brought back memories, feelings, and fears I had when Ellie was born and we were told she was born without her right eye.

It made me remember the stares, points and even comments about Ellie from complete strangers when we were out and about. Those early days were hard..!! Hearing people say horrible things about my daughter, watching people stare. I even had people ask me "Whats wrong with your daughter"

Yes it upset me, but I thought "How dare you..!! a complete stranger make me feel uncomfortable about my daughter"

What did I do? How did I deal with it?

I would stare back at them..!! Till I made them cringe and look away, and hopefully I made them feel awkward...

I would approach them, and let them know that I heard there  horrible comments about my daughter and that it was  mean and rude...

I even had business cards made up with Ellie's photo, and it said "My name is Ellie Eda Young and I have Wolf Hirschhorn Syndrome" And the web address for the blog, in a hope that people would go home and look up WHS or Ellie's blog, and be educated about her and her condition.

What on earth makes complete strangers feel the need to voice there horrible thoughts about people with disabilities?

Is it really necessary to point, laugh and ridicule these people?

I know it is human nature to look at things that are different. People that are different... I do this too.. But there is a difference in looking to staring... and then also making comments loud enough for these people and their parents or carers to hear.

Take the time to watch this video. This beautiful little boy, was born without both his eyes. His parents endured the looks, the comments and were even asked, why they didn't abort their baby...!

In this video I see her excitement at finding out she is pregnant...
I see her fear as they realise half way through the pregnancy, there is problems with their baby...
I see her sadness as she talks about how strangers treat her and her baby boy...
I see her joy in her face as she talks about her beautiful boy...

I see everything that we have been though.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWCbkyR0cy0